Too often, the media and even individuals we interact with on a daily basis project this "ideal" image of what a woman should look like, act like, and dress like. While so many times in the past I have bought into those unattainable standards, I finally realized it is okay to be confident with exactly who I am. There is no need to try and change all of the natural aspects of yourself to appease others. It took me a while to get to the point that I am at now with self love and confidence, but I promise you that it is a great feeling once you get there. Getting to this point in your life is not the easiest. I, myself, had to go through a lot in life before I got to where I am today; however, here are a few tips to get you started:
1. love yourself
No matter what race, body shape, hair color, eye color, height, weight, etc. that you are, embrace all of those things about you. These things are what people see on the outside, but they do not define who you are on the inside. Everyone is absolutely beautiful and different for a reason. Learning to love yourself inside and out really is the first step in having self confidence. Being able to look in the mirror and see how beautiful your quirks are from scars to wrinkles to anything you may see as an imperfection is extremely important and empowering.
2. wear what you love
Clothing was something that helped me express who I was ever since I was in elementary school. Even in those times of my life when I was not super confident, I would choose pieces in my closet that made me feel good. Whether those pieces were when I was super girly and loved all things ruffled and pink or when I began to develop the edgier style I have now, I always chose to wear things that made me feel good. I was teased about dressing "too fashionable" when I was in high school because I didn't succumb to wearing "normal" clothes, since I didn't want to look like everyone else. So, even if you are teased for wearing things you like, take those comments and let them empower you instead of allowing them to rule you, since you can say that you are unique and set trends, rather than follow them.
3. Spend time with loved ones
My mom has always been there for me and has helped me develop my self confidence. She has always been a huge supporter of my life and aspirations. I have always felt that I could go to her about anything and everything and she would always listen. In addition to my mom, my fiance is always there for me with anything in life and loves and supports me and my dreams unconditionally. Find that person or those people in your life and talk to them about anything that you are feeling. Allow yourself to open up to them and discuss why you may feel insecure. Having that open communication with someone you trust is extremely important in developing self confidence.
4. remove all toxic relationships
Whether you are in a toxic romantic relationship or a toxic friendship, remove those from your life as much as you can. Don't let toxic people in, as they are just there to squash the confidence you are building in yourself. Those individuals want to tear that confidence down piece by piece. They do not want the best for you, but rather, want to control you and your life. Instead, find those people you can trust and that help lift you up, rather than push you down.
5. Embrace exercise
This tip is not about losing weight by any means. Instead, this tip is here for your health and wellbeing mentally, physically, and emotionally. When I was in the process of trying to build up my confidence, I began to exercise moderately by jogging and lifting weights three times a week. After every workout session, I felt empowered, since I saw my body being able to run a little faster and to do one extra rep of weights. In addition, when working out, your body is filled with endorphins, which make your mind, body, and soul feel good. Exercising for health, rather than to look a certain way, really helped me build my confidence
6. find your passion
My passion, as you all know, is fashion. Fashion has always been a huge part of my life. When I was in elementary school I learned to sew and sewed through middle school. Then, when I was in high school I discovered styling and blogging and continued to pursue fashion through those outlets. So, no matter what your passion, whether it be fashion, playing a sport, or a hobby, make sure you carve time out at least once a week to do something that involves that passion. Continuing to build on that passion makes you feel good and is something that you can turn to in moments that you are feeling insecure.
Developing self confidence is process and takes time. It truly is a process that is never finished, as once you have that confidence, you need to make sure to nurture it and build upon it. These tips are not the only things that you can do to have self confidence, but I do think that they are a good starting point. I hope that this post is able to help anyone that may need a confidence boost, as all of you classy followers out there are beautiful and amazing and deserve to feel exactly that way!